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KonkNaija Media | May 2, 2016

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The Single Life: 3 Character Traits to Develop Before Marriage

If the desire of your heart is to be married, then being single is really the proving ground for “life after” singlehood. There are some character traits we can develop as singles that are necessary to being complete individuals by the time we walk down the aisle:

1. Confidence

Confidence is the sum of how you carry yourself and how you think of yourself. There are some men who confuse confidence with brashness and cockiness and that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m referring to having a quality of belief in yourself. It’s also important to note that confidence is an attractive trait. Your confidence in yourself should make you fully aware that you are the right man for the right woman in your life.

2. Patience

While single, it’s a great time to work on developing patience. It’s often said when we ask for patience, we are given the opportunity to be patient. There’s a lot of truth in this, so be careful what you ask for. There are times we have a problem with expecting someone to do something the way we would do it. We can’t understand why they can’t clean, manage money or maybe stay in a career long term like we might do it. The fact is, we are all different.

We bring different skill-sets, different backgrounds and different irritations to the table when we get together. Knowing this to be fact, it’s good to develop a level of patience before you build a relationship.

3. Consideration

If we learn to be considerate early in life while we are still single, it makes the transition to a relationship much easier. Take the time to help someone who needs it. Make it a point to put their needs first (even when you aren’t tied together and you don’t have to). Mentor a little sister or brother. Volunteer at an assisted living community. When other people become the center of your universe and not yourself, then you grow in handling responsibility and you develop the heart of a considerate person. This will serve you well in your relationships.

These traits build character, which resonate in all relationships, not just the romantic ones. Confidence, patience and consideration are parts of our character which when developed and maintained make us attractive on the inside and not only on the outside. Cultivate and grow these traits to prepare for successful relationships.